How do you develop a positive attitude? The key is to learn to be nicer to yourself. Here are some tips to help you gradually change and develop a positive attitude.
Self-Help Tools: To develop a positive attitude, we are going to use the following tools: gratitude, positive thinking, and affirmations.
“Being kind to myself. If that were a friend talking to me with that nasty voice saying that I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t skinny enough, I wasn’t beautiful enough, I wouldn’t be a friend to that person.” Mariel Hemingway
What are you saying to yourself?
Take a couple of days (no more than two or else you will need quick tips for procrastination) to pay attention to what you are thinking about when it comes to yourself, your finances, your career or job, your friends, family, coworkers and strangers you meet. Write down exactly what you think of. Try not to focus on the obvious, yes, you love some of these people, but what do you say about them in your head.
Take a Personal Accounting
What type of people, situations, and surroundings do you want in your life? Take a look around, if you are not living the life you envisioned for yourself, then it is time to attract what you want in your life. Take the list you have just created and change your negative, self-defeating thoughts to positive, self-affirming and empowering thoughts.
Becoming your Best Self is a transformation that begins in your mind. It is that easy. You just have to decide who your Best Self is and start living as that person now. I know the concept of becoming your Best Self is nothing new, but most of us spend time chasing what we want while trying to become the person of our dreams. The dream is always hanging in the future just out of our reach, but what is stopping you from living as your Best Self from exactly where you are today?
The concept of living as your Best Self now is based on the idea of Creative Imagination. Creative Imagination is using your imagination to move through life living as if your goals are accomplished.
Take a leap from where you are now, you do not need to go shopping, just pick out clothes and shoes from your closet that make you feel your best and put them on knowing you are facing the world as your Best Self. As you start to tell yourself this, you can imagine how your Best Self would carry herself, how she would speak to people and then you start doing it.
This is Creative Imagination at work, you just start to imagine every moment in your life as if you are living as your Best Self and before you know it you will be your Best Self.
Once again, the transformation is in your mind, to best illustrate this point I am going to compare my old mainstream visualization technique versus Creative Imagination. I used the vision board technique, with an inspiration picture of the person I was going to become when all the stars lined up, and my life was the vision of perfection that I had in my head. I would conjure up an image of a woman whom I adored, and I would wonder how she felt, who was in her life, and how she lived. Then one day it occurred to me that I could be this person right now. I could wake up in the morning and live the rest of my life as my Best Self, and that is exactly what I did.